Mommy Mommy Mommy

I'd like to start out by saying that in no way do I discount the role of mother, mommy, mom, mum, mater... But when will society stop focusing on parenting by sex and start focusing on parenting by parents, regardless of sex? If you tell someone they're not good enough long enough, they'll come to believe it.

This is what has happened.

Men have been told they're not needed as parents. Women can do it all. Be super woman. Bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan. Work a career, come home, be a mom, add in a vibrator and a baster full of donated sperm? And what are men needed for? "Men are useless" - as it was declared on WebMD today.

So useless. I want to discuss that. Are women useless? Do you feel useless? Even if your husband and children are angry with you - are you really without use?

When are people without merit? Without use? Without need?

We have a generation of men being brought up by single parents, who don't understand what it means to be a man, since they have never had a father. Why does this matter? Should men be more feminine in order to be accepted by society, or should the masculine be better understood?

What is being a man? It's not drinking a beer, watching football, being clueless about our children, only interested in sex, and being a slob. Though it is becoming the generic stereotype. Yes, dear, whatever you say dear...

I suppose the flip side is that women were oppressed all those years. But only in limited history. In many societies in the world, women were equally as important, or more important as men. Yet, just like people forget that Asia was equally as involved in the slave trade as Europe (they would castrate their slaves so they couldn't breed with the general population, in case you weren't aware - sold into slavery by the Arabic traders to Japan, China, etc.), people forget that the recent history of the world is not the only history which existed. Whole societies and religions were based upon the worship of the female, the yoni, the mother, the womb, while the man was lesser.

Did that make him useless? No, of course not. It made the male... brace yourself... different.

That's all it is.

Men and women are different.

One is not better or worse, more or less, subservient or dominant. They're just different. They think differently, speak differently, act differently.

So what is it that makes Mommy all important and Daddy relegated to the stupid and useless? Revenge? Insecurity? Anger?

Guess what. You picked him. If he's stupid and insensitive and doesn't friggin help around the house, fools around... You had the choice to pick differently.

And you know? Why bother to do more when it's acceptable to sit around and watch Mommy do it the "right" way. I hope all of you with sons remember that one day their wives will call them useless too.

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On a side note, it's been 2 years since Constance died. Life is hell.